by belindanoakes | Jan 31, 2017 | The Daddy Wound
Daddy’s Girl is all sugar and spice, all sweetness and light. Until he disappoints her. Then she becomes a scared, wounded animal. Daddy’s Girl holds tight to her fantasy of the perfect man. Her Prince Charming. Her Sir Galahad. She’s certain that some day, he’ll show...
by belindanoakes | Jan 30, 2017 | Self compassion
Dear Perfection, I love you. I love you for all the times you kept me safe. Stopped me from moving ahead before I was ready. Saved me from making a mistake and being humiliated. Held me back while others rushed into the fire and got burned. Thank you for warning me of...
by belindanoakes | Nov 2, 2016 | Self compassion
Part of me is a machine. A cyborg – part human, part robot. I call her Caprica 6, after the tall blonde cylon in Battlestar Galactica who so desperately wants to be loved. When I worked for a software company, to call someone a machine was to pay them a huge...
by belindanoakes | Sep 8, 2016 | Personal Transformation
I try to be real and honest with myself and with the world, especially through the words I write. I have threshold moments where I realise I’ve been as real and honest as I was able… but a new level’s opened up. Something shifts and suddenly I can’t ignore an...
by belindanoakes | Jul 30, 2016 | Personal Transformation
This last month, I’ve been coming to terms with some of the small details of my life. Money. Work. Home. Relationships. In every area, I’ve found things I’d have preferred not to see. Like my resistance to budgeting. Or the story that doing any form...