Make Friends With Your Mind

whitespace_100x20Do you often overthink things and doubt yourself?  

Does the voice in your head sometimes get so loud you can’t hear anything else?

I’ve lived with chronic doubt my whole life. I know from experience that fighting with my mind doesn’t work. The only way to help it quiet down is to make friends with it.

Your mind’s been working hard and it’s tired. It’s only been trying to protect you and keep you safe. When the mind overworks, we can tend to get frustrated with it – but what it needs is a little compassion.

This exercise will help to quiet and calm your mind.

 


 

Close your eyes and take a deep breath down into your belly. Imagine a figure 8 drawn on the floor where you’re sitting. You’re sitting inside one of the loops and the other loop is out in front of you. Invite your mind to come into the other side of the figure 8.

Your mind might show up as a picture of a brain or something else. Or you might not see a picture – you might just get a sense or a knowing that it’s there. However it happens for you is perfect.

Once the mind is in the figure 8, take another deep breath and drop your attention down into your heart. Imagine sending a wave of warm loving heart energy from your heart across the figure 8 to your mind as you repeat these phrases out loud.

I’m so sorry you’re scared.

I’m so sorry you can’t slow down.

I’m so sorry you’ve been working so hard. 

I’m so sorry you’re tired from working so hard.

I’m so sorry you don’t get a break.

I’m so sorry you’re responsible for everything.

I’m so sorry you can’t afford to make a mistake.

I’m so sorry it’s not safe for you to make a mistake.

I’m so sorry bad things happen when you make a mistake.

I’m so sorry you’re responsible for keeping the body alive. 

I’m so sorry you have to be in control.

I’m so sorry you have to be in control of everything all the time just to survive.

I’m so sorry you can never relax.

I’m so sorry you have to be prepared for every possibility.

I’m so sorry you have to figure it all out before it happens.

I’m so sorry it’s exhausting.

I’m so sorry there’s always something that needs monitoring.

I’m so sorry the world isn’t safe.

I’m so sorry there’s no safe place here.

I’m so sorry you can never be completely safe.

I’m so sorry there’s nothing and no-one that you can completely trust.

I’m so sorry you can’t even completely trust yourself.

I’m so sorry it’s dangerous to trust anyone or anything.

I’m so sorry you always have to be ‘on’.

I’m so sorry the world is scary.

I’m so sorry life is scary.

I’m so sorry fear itself is scary.

I’m so sorry chaos is terrifying.

I’m so sorry there’s so much fear.

I’m so sorry you have to keep yourself busy to avoid the fear.

I’m so sorry that when you avoid it, the fear doesn’t actually go anywhere.

I’m so sorry there’s always more fear for you to avoid.

I’m so sorry you have to do everything yourself.

I’m so sorry you can’t work as part of a team.

I’m so sorry you can’t trust the heart to form a team with you.

 


 

The free tinybrave resource library includes an activity like this one that’ll help your heart take the lead, plus a bunch of other clearing exercises. The library will be ready soon – if you sign up, I’ll notify you when it’s open.