Have you felt it? The sense you didn’t achieve as much as you wanted last year? That nagging feeling of not measuring up? The subtle voice of worry that builds as you make lists of the things you want to do in 2016?
I call it the post-holiday comedown. Over the past week, I noticed all the parts of my life I’d prefer to be different sticking out more sharply than usual. I saw the old tendency to evaluate my performance over the past year and focus on what didn’t work or what I didn’t get done, rather than what went well. And I felt the intentions forming for 2016 settling heavily around my shoulders – weighing me down, rather than helping me move forward.
What if we decided to take the pressure off? This year, I’m being more kind to myself instead of less. Rather than making long lists, I’m aiming to do one useful thing each day and giving myself compassion for being unsure about my single highest priority. Instead of feeling down because I didn’t accomplish everything I’d planned in 2015, I’m noticing and appreciating what I got done. Rather than pushing the accelerator further to the floor and trying to double my output, I’m sending myself compassion for the habit of allowing my mind to set the agenda. And I’m building regular time spent in nature, in silence, into my schedule so I get regular reminders to slow right down.
These compassion phrases might support you in preparing for 2016. Sit up straight with your feet on the floor and take a couple of deep breaths down into your belly. Focus on your heart and solar plexus and imagine sending yourself the warm loving heart energy of compassion. Then repeat these phrases out loud, pausing in between to see how each one feels in your body.
I’m so sorry you didn’t get everything done last year.
I’m so sorry you’re not where you wanted to be.
I’m so sorry your life isn’t perfect yet.
I’m so sorry your to do list is never finished.
I’m so sorry you’re so quick to write the next to do list, you can’t notice what you’ve accomplished.
I’m so sorry you can’t pause and rest.
I’m so sorry you can’t find a moment to be quiet and still.
I’m so sorry you don’t have time to give your body what it needs.
I’m so sorry you’re not clear about your single highest priority for today.
I’m so sorry you’re not clear about your single highest priority for the next week.
I’m so sorry you’re not clear about your single highest priority for the next month.
I’m so sorry you’re not clear about your single highest priority for this year.
I’m so sorry you’ve allowed your mind to lead.
I’m so sorry you can’t allow your heart to lead.
I’m so sorry you’ve been too busy to hear your Soul’s guidance.
I’m so sorry you can’t allow your Soul to write your to-do list.
I’m so sorry you can’t be more kind to yourself, every day.
Start 2016 gently with a free compassion coaching session in January.
I help people rewrite old stories that create suffering and shape new narratives that support self-love. I want to offer my work to as many people as possible, because self-directed compassion has the power to create miracles in our lives. It feels like the start of a new year is a great time to demonstrate how cultivating compassion for ourselves can transform our experience.
So I’ve set some extra space aside in my calendar in January for free 40 minute sessions. In that time we’ll release any stories you’re carrying about what didn’t work in 2015 and what’s coming this year. We’ll clear what blocks you from moving forward with self-love. You’ll feel lighter and more energised as you step into whatever 2016 holds for you.
If you’d like to spend 40 minutes on Skype with me before the end of January, please get in touch and let me know why you’d like some support heading into this new year.